바카라We teach girls to shrink themselves
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls
바카라You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man바카라
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach to aspire to marriage
And we don바카라t teach boys the same?
We raise girls to each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are
Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes바카라
With Cracks In MeToo Movement And Silencing Of Women, How Do We Fight The Might Of Patriarchy?
#MeToo is a movement that dared to collectivize suffering, empathy, and perhaps hope. The celebrity trial in the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard case might have jeopardised the #MeToo movement but it is important to once again collectivise and rise.
바카라Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie in Beyonce바카라s song Flawless
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I have often heard this song, played it to others, danced to it, made others dance to it. It needs to be heard. It needs to be sung. On full volume. Now, more than ever. The trial바카라s just concluded. Yes, the Johnny Depp and Amber Heard trial that lasted six weeks and was broadcast globally from a courtroom in Fairfax, Virginia. Depp won. Heard lost. Both have to pay for damages. Depp is to pay $2M. Heard to pay $15M that was capped at $10M. Some have called this a balanced judgment. It isn바카라t.
It didn바카라t generate as much outrage when Johnny Depp바카라s text messages to friends about murdering his then-wife, Heard, said, 바카라I will fuck her burnt corpse afterwards to make sure she바카라s dead,바카라 than it did when Heard talked about her bruise kit (a makeup kit that she used to hide the scars of her abuse) which was dissected, ridiculed and dismissed. I insist on the bruise kit because that바카라s where a lot of answers lie. They kept coming at her with questions and pictures. You appeared on a television show and no bruises showed. Your nose wasn바카라t broken. It didn바카라t look like it and if a broken nose looks that good, they could do with one. They cut her off in the courtroom. They demolished her outside of it. They even said she should have smelled the Dior perfume on her husband바카라s chest and lived a good life rather than coming out with her bruises and her story of abuse.
We didn바카라t see much outrage when Depp described her body as 바카라Mushy, pointless, dangling, overused floppy fish market.바카라 These texts were part of Depp바카라s defamation suit against Heard. Depp sued her over a 2018 Washington Post column titled I spoke up against sexual violence바카라and faced our culture바카라s wrath. Heard called herself a public figure representing domestic abuse. While she didn바카라t take names, his lawyers claim the piece was about him and was defamatory. Depp sought $50M. In a counter suit, Heard sued for $100M. In that courtroom, the trial became more about who the aggressor was and how, than about defamation. At one point, I heard Depp바카라s lawyer Camilla Vasquez say that Heard didn바카라t have friends because none of them showed up for her.
Heard had been alienated. Some feminists argue that the trial that Depp won will have an adverse effect on the #MeToo movement and will deter women from coming out with their stories of abuse. On the #MeToo website, it says the movement aims at a cultural change by 바카라encouraging millions to speak out about sexual violence and harassment바카라 and the aim is about 바카라disrupting all systems that allow sexual violence to flourish바카라.
Started by activist Tarana Burke in 2006, the hashtag took off on social media in 2017 when actress Alyssa Milano wrote on her Twitter handle 바카라If you바카라ve been sexually harassed or assaulted write 바카라me too바카라 as a reply to this tweet바카라. More than 66,000 users replied. The 바카라too바카라 is where we are failing. I remember the anonymous 바카라elbow바카라 on the 2017 cover of Time magazine where it named the 바카라Silence Breakers바카라 as Person of the Year for the hundreds of women who came out with their stories of abuse anonymously. Besides the elbow, there were five women who came out with their names as they called out their harassers. But it was the elbow that acknowledged the anonymous silence-breaker.
The skewed world of gender relations and power dynamics was finally going to change with hashtags like #MeToo, #HerToo and #TimesUp. And then, defamation and libel lawsuits were filed. A silencing of the women was attempted. With every case that a powerful man won against a woman, the movement suffered a setback. How do we fight the might of patriarchy?
The movement바카라s founder Tarana Burke insists the movement is very much alive, but cracks have appeared in the way we see the movement or even feminism. Like how Daphne Merkin in her article in The New York Times assessed the anti-#MeToo sentiment once. She wrote to the women coming out with their stories of abuse 바카라Grow up, this is real life바카라. Well, real life was never easy. But that doesn바카라t mean we have to resign to that idea.
Heard isn바카라t the perfect victim. She also isn바카라t as powerful as Depp. That바카라s where we need to remind ourselves of the point of the #MeToo movement. The 바카라too바카라 in it is for inclusivity as espoused in intersectional feminism. Here바카라s the thing about the trial that was almost 바카라courtroom porn바카라 as Monica Lewinsky writes in her column after the judgment. It leapt out from the screens everywhere. Amber Heard was shamed publicly. Didn바카라t the movement that sought to empower women in coming out with their stories of sexual harassment say #BelieveAllWomen?
Violence against women is systemic. There are contexts and origins. There are articulations and complex histories and outdated and oppressive traditions. Our histories might differ but our oppression must unite us. That바카라s where intersectional feminism comes in. #MeToo is a movement that dared to collectivize suffering, empathy, and perhaps hope. The burden of shame, a huge one, was going to be shed. It was a cathartic moment. We started to dream of a feminist future. And then, we slowed down.
Let바카라s not shrink ourselves. Let바카라s remember patriarchy feeds off of shame and silence. Let바카라s organise and let바카라s believe in sisterhood. There바카라s hope. That바카라s why we have called this issue Still I Rise. That바카라s why there바카라s the woman in a veil made of razor blades on the cover. Remember the 바카라too바카라 in the #MeToo. It isn바카라t about me or her. It is about us.
(This appeared in the print edition as "A Feminist Future")