Twist In The Fairy Tale

• Prospective grooms or brides are put under surveillance for a week or more
• The candidates are watched closely바카라�where they work, what they eat, who they meet. Tidbits on lifestyle habits are important.
• Phone records, pay slips, credit history and medical records are dug out
• Household help, dhobhi, kirana store owners are discreetly quizzed for 바카라�character verification바카라�
• Relatives, family members, friends may be questioned undercover to confirm family background
• Spycams are used in extreme cases, and if the client demands hard evidence
• Most frequently, clients want to know the prospective groom/ bride바카라�s job profile, financial status, family reputation, lifestyle habits, sexual preferences, medical history, previous marriages if any, whether they바카라�re having an affair

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It didn바카라�t take the Delhi-based detective long to blow his story apart. Followed home from work, the ostensibly rich suitor turned out to be living in a shabby paying guest accommodation that cost Rs 4,000 per month, meals included. A garrulous maid provided the useful nugget that he drank quantities of beer daily. Thanks to her network of HR contacts, Bhavna also discovered that he had added a fictitious zero to his annual salary of Rs 6 lakh. And, oh yes, the paan. 바카라�He chews twenty a day,바카라� his local paanwala reported happily.

For Bhavna, adept at unpacking the lifestyles of apparently affluent young men, this was an easy case. To crack trickier ones, she has donned the disguise of a domestic worker (to check out a 29-year-old suspected of sleeping with his maid), tailed a would-be bigamist all the way from Delhi바카라�s international airport to Chandigarh and even stayed up all night in a five-star hotel room in Jaipur to keep watch on an NRI client바카라�s chosen bride and her male colleague.

Rahul Rai Gupta, proprietor of Secret Watch, another Delhi agency, had one of his agents pose as a gay man to uncover the sexual habits of a prospective groom. And warm, matronly A.M. Malathi of Malathi Women Detective Agency (바카라�What is impossible for you is possible for us바카라�, reads its tagline) in Chennai바카라�s busy Anna Salai바카라�whose clients are often middle-class girls from IT companies바카라�thinks nothing of spending days stalking a young man who may or may not be a suitable boy. Others from the tribe see it as part of a day바카라�s work to unearth the phone records, degrees, payslips or medical records of a marriage candidate.

Sneaky, enterprising and unfazed by privacy barriers, sleuths like these, charging Rs 15,000 to Rs 25,000 per case, are making good money in the increasingly randomised world of urban matrimony. Many detective agencies report a surge바카라�a four-fold one, say some바카라�over the last three years in 바카라�pre-marital cases바카라�; 20-25 cases per month is standard for the well-known ones.

The case histories they relate바카라�complete with tidbits of salacious, even hair-raising, detail바카라�indicate that a mix of age-old and contemporary urban worries are causing singles and their families to put prospective grooms, and less frequently, brides, under the scanner. Is he in a relationship with another woman? Or worse, a man? Is he impotent? Does he live well enough for my needs? Is he only after me for my Canadian citizenship? Will she be able to adjust to our 바카라�lifestyle and culture바카라�? Does she drink? Has she lost her virginity? Does the family have a history of dowry harassment?

The detectives see themselves not just as lowly snoops, but trendspotters, counsellors (like Rahul, who told a dismayed bride바카라�s family that he could help 바카라�cure바카라� a groom of his homosexuality) and even moral guardians and social workers; like Captain D.K. Giri of Hyderabad-based Sharp Detectives, who charges one-third of what other agencies charge for pre-marital investigations and takes great pride in 바카라�saving someone from the trauma of a bad marriage바카라�. And each sleuth has his or her own spin on why a practice that lurked on the margins, if at all, of the marriage mart has gained popularity. For instance, Ravi Kapur, managing director at Delhi-based Ace Detectives, makes it sound like buying insurance to protect an expensive investment. 바카라�If middle- to upper-class families shell out upwards of Rs 10-20 lakh for a wedding, what is a few thousands to secure a future with a sound candidate?바카라� he asks.

He, and others too, also issue dark warnings about the rising levels of deception and fraud in marital matters, punctuated with a fund of horror stories. Citing a surge in what she calls 바카라�immoral activities바카라�, Malathi says, 바카라�People come to us even without a reason, just to make sure they are not being cheated or lied to about something.바카라�

Does this point to a growing trust deficit in society? 바카라�I don바카라�t think so,바카라� says adman and social commentator Santosh Desai. 바카라�If you are going to take such a big call (ie marriage) without knowing much about someone바카라�what do you do? Companies do reference checks, too, before tying up with other companies.바카라� Using a detective to check on a spouse after marriage, he argues, suggests a lack of trust. 바카라�But in cases such as these, the relationship doesn바카라�t even exist.바카라� Sociologist Patricia Uberoi sees the hiring of detectives by young people as a comment on the way they are seeking and negotiating relationships these days. They lead, she points out, far more mobile lives, and yet continue to look for guarantees in relationships. In this paradoxical urbanscape, trust is being renegotiated, says Uberoi. 바카라�People are taking more risks and they바카라�re also aware of the dangers of taking risks. Marriage is recognised as risky business.바카라�

Invoking the G-word, globalisation, rarely absent from any discussion about modern day India, Jitendra Satpute, CEO, Topsgrup, a Mumbai-based security and detective agency, says, 바카라�People are marrying across continents, and this makes it very challenging to get reliable information about prospective partners. Many women have been hoodwinked by NRI men. As people are becoming more net-savvy, they바카라�re also becoming more naive.바카라�

A point made across the board, by agencies as well as sociologists, is that detectives are, to some degree, performing functions that aunts, uncles and traditional matchmakers carried out, and quite effortlessly, in a gentler era, when matches were made within a relatively small circle of friends, acquaintances and family contacts. They are a 바카라�coping mechanism, a safety net바카라�, as Desai puts it, for dealing with the random world of classifieds and online matrimony that match-seekers seem increasingly to rely on바카라�both individuals and their families. (Industry sources estimate that over 40 million Indians are registered on matrimonial websites.)

Offline, too, networks of friends and acquaintances are diverse, and from an anxious parent바카라�s point of view, less reliable. All seemed well for a 27-year-old Delhi girl who had fallen in love with a man she met through a friend. Her mother, too, was impressed by her prospective son-in-law, who came from a wealthy political family in a small North Indian town; but just as a measure of caution, she hired Jitendra of Topsgrup to carry out a 바카라�routine바카라� background check. 바카라�Our investigators went to the boy바카라�s home town,바카라� he says, narrating the tale with relish, 바카라�and blended in with the residents. They found out that the family had a hotel which was, in fact, also being used as a brothel바카라�.

These horror stories apart, what also comes through in the detectives바카라� colourful tales is that they are being hired not just to allay the fears and anxieties of their clients, but also to fuel their skyrocketing aspirations. 바카라�The trend these days,바카라� reveals Bhavna, for instance, 바카라�is to have a detective check out five-six prospective grooms or brides for a client바카라�so that they can pick out the best. And they want the details바카라�what they eat, what they wear, where they hang out바카라�everything.바카라� Comments Uberoi: 바카라�It바카라�s a very competitive world out there because you are looking for the best in an anonymous space. It reflects a neo-liberal economic order driven by ambition, aspiration and choice, where the sky is the limit.바카라�