Dear Shree, I met this guy at a club, we danced after a short conversation. Later that night I went with him to his car to exchange numbers and we kissed a while and went back in the club. Eventually I left the club with my friends. Later that week I got a text from him asking me to hang out with him, we went to eat and made out in his car. This went on for a few days 바카라 we바카라d see each other, hang out and such. Lately, I have been developing feelings. I asked him how he felt and he called me his best friend. Well, after a few weeks, I asked him again if he 바카라likes me,바카라 this time asking if I was merely a booty call. His reply was, 바카라That바카라s a good question.바카라 I still never got my answer. What do you think?
Sweta Bhagat, New Delhi
I think the answer is loud and clear and it바카라s best you accept the judgment before you are let down and feel that you have been jilted. He was possibly just looking for a roll in the hay, and unless you are on the same page, don바카라t waste your time running after the wrong man, risking your dignity and above all, inviting heart break.
Dear Shree, my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 years. We stay in different cities and don바카라t get to see each other much. I have my own flat here. We바카라ve discussed getting married, but it seems that he does not want to leave his house which was his marital residence and I don바카라t want to leave my house which was my marital residence (and neither of us wants to live in the other바카라s house). I suggested that, when we get married, we start fresh and buy a house together, but he says he바카라s hesitant to sell his house because of high real reasons. Sometimes I feel resentful that maybe we should be married by now. I find myself becoming resentful that it바카라s always date night and not domesticated life. We just go on a little vacations바카라dinners바카라etc., and it바카라s not real life. What do other people do in our situation?
Preeti Parmer, Bhopal
Well, I think people in your situation do one of two things: continue living separately and adjust their expectations (if their expectations need adjusting), or move on if the arrangement doesn바카라t satisfy them.
There can be lots and lots of reasons a longterm couple doesn바카라t marry or move in together, and not all of them automatically indicate issues in a relationship or point to a mismatched couple. The problem arises when one person in the couple isn바카라t satisfied with the arrangement or has expectations the other either isn바카라t aware of or has no intentions of ever meeting. In your case, you have to decide if your dissatisfaction with your arrangement stems from true unhappiness with the situation or is projected emotion over what you THINK your life should look like or what you imagine other people might think about you and your relationship.
You seem to think 바카라real life바카라 only exists in a shared residence 바카라 that quality time together outside what many might consider the daily grind of domesticity 바카라 doesn바카라t count. But what if it바카라s the other way around? What if 바카라real life바카라 happens in the moments you바카라re engaged with the person you love and care about and not in the moments you바카라re arguing over mundane domestic matters? The truth is, we each get to create our own real lives, and just because your life doesn바카라t look like your neighbors바카라 or your friends바카라 or your sister바카라s or whatever, doesn바카라t mean it바카라s less meaningful.
If you can adjust your expectations and find happiness in your arrangement 바카라 in the quality time you spend together over dinners and vacations, rather than focusing on whatever domestic bliss you think you바카라re lacking 바카라 then there바카라s no reason this can바카라t work for a long time (maybe forever).
I am a seventeen-year-old girl who is in a tight spot. There is this boy who is smart, funny, super nice and caring, and has just introduced me to his family, who are also very nice. However, there is a slight problem, I am physically not into him. I know it sounds bad, and I try to look pass it but can바카라t. I am not judgmental, but his unattractive face makes him not datable. I feel embarrassed to be seen with him around people I know and don바카라t want him to meet my extended family because of the way he looks. Should I end the relationship or just see if I can get through it? I feel terrible, but I don바카라t want to keep dating him. Also, my best friend has been crushing on him for three years.
Mallika Venkatraman, Bengaluru
Sounds like your best friend would like to date him, and who knows how many others would like to date a guy who is 바카라smart, funny, super nice and caring.바카라 Unfortunately, you aren바카라t one of those people who is interested in the package. That바카라s ok. You바카라re not a bad person for not being attracted to this guy physically. It happens. But do him 바카라 and yourself 바카라 a favor and don바카라t give him any more false hopes. Give yourself a chance to go out with someone who really knocks your socks off, and give this guy the chance to find someone who truly likes him and values all he has to offer.
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