In a rain-splattered afternoon in Calcutta, three women, childhood friends now in their late forties, decide to meet for coffee. 바카라But instead of the cafes where we usually catch up, we decided to drop in at this new joint everyone is talking about,바카라 says Chandrima Chanda, a teacher, who travelled nearly 40 km from the north of the city to get to leafy and busy Jodhpur Park in south Calcutta, where on July 15 a new coffee shop unveiled its very special charms to the public.
Called Cafe Positive, the joint operates out of a garage, concaving its way into a 10-ft by 12-ft space in the wall. But the word 바카라positive바카라 here takes on much more meaning than casual optimism. The new cafe is owned and managed by a group of young adults who are HIV positive. Diagnosed when they were children, they grew up in a shelter for the HIV-infected. Some were abandoned by families; others were orphaned and rendered homeless.
The brain behind the initiative is Kallol Ghosh, founder of OFFER (Organisation of Friends for Energies and Resources), a non-profit NGO which runs the shelter for the HIV positive children, called Ananda Ghar. It was started in 2000, 14 years after Ghosh founded OFFER. 바카라We had opened homes for orphans and homeless children, as well as one for those suffering from mental disabilities,바카라 Ghosh says. 바카라During our work we stumbled upon many HIV positive children. Mostly, they were born with it, having contracted it from either or both parents. Often they were the children of sex workers or beggars and were also orphaned and homeless. They would land up in a children바카라s home or be left to fend for themselves on the streets. We realised HIV positive children needed special attention, including medical care, like access to the drug Anti-retroviral, without which their chances of survival would be slim.바카라
Among the first batch at Ananda Ghar was a brother-sister duo whose mother had committed suicide after neighbours ostracised her in the village. 바카라She was a milkmaid. After her husband left her, she was bringing up her children by supplying milk to households,바카라 says an OFFER member, recounting the tragedy that forced the boy and girl바카라the oldest not even eight바카라to end up in a shelter. If it took a long time for the traumatised children to exorcise past memory, AnaNDA Ghar wanted to ensure that their present바카라the dire fact that they were HIV-infected바카라would not tarnish their future.
Situated in the suburbs, where lush greenery crouches over abundant water bodies, the shelter has largely protected the children from the social stigma that hounds HIV positive people. 바카라Here, they are not just surrounded by others like them, but they are taught not to be ashamed of their disease,바카라 Ghosh says emphatically. 바카라We keep telling them the only illness that they have is a weak immune system.바카라 When a young girl at the home says, 바카라I was brought to the home because I was diagnosed with AIDS,바카라 she is promptly corrected by an OFFER official, his tone hardening in a mild reprimand. 바카라Never say that again,바카라 he says. 바카라There is a difference between having AIDS and being HIV positive.바카라
The 75 children are sent to four different government schools, where they can choose from a wide range of extra-curricular activities, including dance, music, art and sports.
However, the most important part, says Ghosh, is to make them feel loved. Explaining the need to instil 바카라a sense of security바카라 in the children, Ghosh recounts the story of a girl who was brought to the home when she was eight, after being abandoned by a well-to-do Calcutta couple who had adopted her without the knowledge that she was HIV positive. 바카라Eventually, they left the little girl on the streets.바카라 After living a life of affluence for three-and-a-half years, she was in utter shock. For the first six months in Ananda Ghar, she didn바카라t utter a single word, says Ghosh. 바카라It took tender, loving care for her to open up. Her first words to me were, 바카라Uncle, you will not chuck me out on the road, will you?바카라바카라 says an emotional Ghosh.
During Outlook바카라s visit to the home, the newest entrant, a three-year-old girl, is picked up and hugged by a warden as she looks around with lost, dazed eyes. Abandoned by her family for being HIV positive, the child, say the older girls, cried ceaselessly at first, but has now settled in.
바카라We all cry at first because we miss our families,바카라 says an older girl, who was eight when her HIV positive mother deposited her for 바카라safe-keeping바카라. She is lucky; unlike many of the abandoned or orphaned, her mother and grandmother regularly visit her. 바카라But this shelter became our home and the girls, boys and staff our family. We love it here.바카라 A boy who had arrived at Ananda Ghar also aged eight, and who is also a Cafe Positive employee like her, teasingly calls out, 바카라You didn바카라t cry at all바카라. 바카라Of course I did,바카라 she retorts. 바카라I wept silently.바카라 She is comfortable at the cafe, too. 바카라Initially, I was unsure, but now I like the interactions with customers.바카라
But care is one thing, the wherewithal to face the world outside is another. As the children grew older, Ghosh worried about their leaving this cloister and being unprepared to deal with prejudices they would undoubtedly face. 바카라We couldn바카라t leave them in the lurch,바카라 Ghosh says. 바카라We had to make them financially independent.바카라
While the sceptre of inadequate funds constantly stalks OFFER바카라it subsists on donations바카라Ghosh and other members decided to utilise their limited resources to train the ten 18-year-olds. 바카라The Japanese government had donated a bakery to a shelter run by OFFER,바카라 reveals Ghosh. It includes an oven for baking cakes and muffins, machinery for making sandwiches, the technology for brewing coffee and other beverages, including tea, cold shakes and mojitos.
바카라The month-long training, with a couple of weeks of internships at other cafes, was provided to the boys and girls, over and above other career counselling,바카라 says Ghosh. For many, the cafe job is an opening, a toehold in professional life. 바카라I think I will make a good salesperson and working in Cafe Positive is giving me valuable experience,바카라 a girl says with a wide smile.
The boys and girls work in six-hour shifts and travel the 21-kilometre distance from the home to the Jodhpur Park cafe by bus. 바카라The idea is to instil confidence in them,바카라 says Ghosh. So, not only do they travel to work on their own, they do the whole show: don aprons and t-shirts with the Cafe Positive logo, take orders from customers, prepare dishes, serve them up, keep tabs of the bills, collect cash, check accounts and manage the cafe. One of the boys speaks of how initially he was inhibited and wasn바카라t sure of how to speak with customers. 바카라Not that we were not nervous, but we have been taught to proudly declare that we have this condition and not hesitate to speak about it. When that fear is gone, it doesn바카라t matter what people will think,바카라 he says.
Though getting someone to rent out a space for a cafe to be manned by people infected with HIV was, expectedly, a harrowing experience바카라ultimately, a gentleman called Indrajyoti Dasgupta vacated his garage for the 바카라noble venture바카라바카라the response was overwhelming. As word spread, Cafe Positive stood out amongst the hundreds of eating out options that vie for attention in posh South Calcutta.
바카라Some days it바카라s so packed that customers wait for tables outside on the road,바카라 gushes Ghosh. Word-of-mouth knowledge about the cafe has spread through social media. 바카라The cafe is more than an avenue to generate income for HIV positive children,바카라 he says. 바카라This is the start of a movement which will not just eradicate stigma, but also bust myths about HIV, such as the grossly erroneous belief that the virus can get transmitted through food or drink. We want HIV positive people in every Bengal district to open a Cafe Positive, through which the true facts of HIV will be disseminated.바카라
The three childhood friends too had read about the cafe on the opinionated walls of Facebook. Says Ashmita Trivedi, a homemaker: 바카라I live in Jodhpur Park, which is a Bengali, upper-middle-class, conservative neighbourhood. But people seem to have the maturity to welcome the cafe.바카라 Many more people must have felt like Ashmita. For there is always a crowd in front of Cafe Positive, painted as it is in the radiantly hopeful colours of the sun, in bright yellow and red.
By Dola Mitra in Calcutta
