바카라My eyes are always hungry. They look at your face and move down and we long for that complete body. It is a strong urge to be a woman and to look better than any woman. We want to be mothers, too. That is an inherent part of being a woman바카라 바카라
Gauri Sawant to me in an interview in 2012 for 바카라The Eunuch Mothers바카라 that appeared in Open magazine
We were in that typical Mumbai taxi with the inside of the roof lined with artificial leather with a lot of flowers in yellow, orange and pink printed on it. In this city, there are a lot of skies depending on the degree of escape one wants. From where she lived, the sky came to her in bits and pieces. The high-rises around had more sky. The taxi was an in-between space.
Gauri Sawant was narrating her story under the false sky. She looked out of the window of the taxi and said that becoming a woman was impossible for her and others like her. Even with the exaggerated, accentuated projected selves, the truth, as she explained, was that they바카라d always be half-women, always. It was raining that evening, again. The blue tarpaulin sheets everywhere, the raindrops that broke themselves as they hit the ground, an old Bollywood song about a rainy evening and lovers바카라 desires in the taxi, and two people who were not in a hurry to get anywhere. A story like that takes time. To listen and to narrate. There are many pauses in such stories. The ride was long. The notebook had many blank pages.
It was in July 2012. I had first met her in Malvani Agar-Gaikwad Nagar in Mumbai where in a part of the neighbourhood lined with shanties and one-room tenements, lived a group of eunuchs. I had gone there to meet Shahnaz Nani, a eunuch, who had married off her adopted daughter that year. She took us to meet Gauri and others that afternoon and Gauri then offered to take me to Kamathipura to meet Zeenath Pasha in Gulli No 1.
Gauri was 30 then and was the director of Sakhi Char Chowghi Trust바카라which works with transgenders and helps AIDS victims. She had an adopted daughter, Gayatri, who was 10 then and studied in a boarding school. She had adopted Gayatri when the girl바카라s mother had died of HIV/AIDS in 2008. Gauri had known the mother.
She told me then that she had become a mother by accident. Like Pasha, and the others. In 2017, 바카라Touch of Care바카라 by Vicks, an advertisement that featured Gauri, was released based on the story 바카라The Eunuch Mothers바카라 in Open magazine, which was about Pasha and Gauri, the two transwomen who had adopted children. Pasha ran a brothel in Kamathipura and Gauri was an activist who was fighting for more visibility and rights for the transgender community. When the company that was making the advertisement approached us for the story, they had wanted Pasha바카라s story. But Pasha was reluctant and Gauri was willing. The advertisement featured Gauri and a child actor in a bus as they made their way to the boarding school.
It has been many years since. Gayatri must be 21 years old now. Gauri became a celebrity. A biopic series was announced. I haven바카라t seen it. It has Sushmita Sen in the lead role. Sen is a fine actor. But this isn바카라t just about an actor바카라s range. It is about miscasting that de-legitimises trans people바카라s experiences. Gauri바카라s fight had been for visibility for transwomen. In the biopic series, the transwomen have been invisibilised, almost. The makers of the series were interested only in the story. It had redemptive possibilities. They would be hailed as those who brought a story of a transwoman and her struggle to the people.
The makers have said they weren바카라t making a documentary and they had to sell the series and they had to get a big actor. In an interview, they also said in India, trans people are sidelined, and it is sad. In their series, they have done the same. Sen has said Gauri chose her. She has said it wasn바카라t a general story but Gauri바카라s story. But Gauri바카라s story is also about her fight for the rights of trans people. Cisgender actors are paid to play trans people. Trans actors aren바카라t even cast in trans people roles.
Scarlett Johansson was criticised for agreeing to play Dante Tex Gill in Rub & Tug, a film about the experience of being a trans man in Pittsburgh in 1970s and 1980s. She announced her departure from the project in 2018 and said she was withdrawing from the film in light of ethical questions. Actor Eddie Redmayne, who played a trans character in The Danish Girl, which released in 2015, said in 2021 to The Sunday Times that it was a mistake. He said there must be a levelling in casting.
바카라Many people don바카라t have a chair at the table,바카라 he had said.
The criticisms that come in the wake of such casting are right. Such castings contribute to harmful stereotypes and are often reductive. By casting trans people in supporting roles is not enough.
Gender is a negotiation that is ongoing. It is a struggle that aims to challenge the historical constraints of assigned and imposed gender. That was Gauri바카라s struggle, too. It remains her struggle. It is tied to her identity, and identity is a complex question. She isn바카라t a character. She is also the third gender.
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I remember the first evening in Kamathipura in 2012. It was Z바카라s birthday and she had worn chandelier earrings and a black chiffon sari. Her adopted daughter was sleeping in her lap. Later, we climbed up to the roof. Z said it was her birthday. Gauri decided to sing a song. Mandwa, her chela, did a little dance. They talked about their lives. They said motherhood was beautiful. They had dreams for their children. Gauri wanted Gayatri to become a doctor.
Over the next few days, we met and talked more. Gayatri was six when Gauri brought her home. She cut her nails and fed her. She enrolled the girl in a neighbourhood school. She spent time with a group of trans women who had found refuge at the trust.
Gayatri was then sent to a boarding school in Pune. It wasn바카라t a safe environment for her in Malvani, Gauri had said.
Gauri was born in Pune and was the second daughter of a police officer. She lost her mother when she was around nine. The sisters lived with their grandmother. One morning, Gauri was found sleeping wearing a bra underneath her shirt. She said she was made to urinate with the door open so that her uncles could ensure she wasn바카라t squatting like a woman. Her father would choose her clothes. Pants and shirts. And Gauri, who was then Ganesh, had to keep a moustache. Ganesh fell for a boy in school and wrote him letters and drew little red hearts. Ganesh had felt heartbroken when he saw the boy with another girl at the bus stop.
When she was about 17, her father held the door open for her and asked her to leave. She said she met Ashok Row Kavi, a gay rights activist, who provided her shelter and she went through sex reassignment surgeries to transition from male to female.
바카라Cutting off your genitals is not easy. It is a part of you that you are letting go of. The truth is, we will always be incomplete women. Not here, not there,바카라 she had told me then.
In 2014, Gauri became the first transgender person to file a petition in the Supreme Court of India for adoption rights of transgender people. She was a petitioner in the National Legal Services Authority (NALSA) case, in which the Supreme Court recognised transgender as the third gender. The fight is ongoing. Not just for legal rights, but also for acceptance and integration, for dignity, and for visibility.
Trans men and non-binary people have largely been invisible in cinema, and on television. The argument for this is that an actor is an actor and can play any role but can they perform gender is a question worth reflecting upon.
Gauri and Z are not just stories. They represent the struggle for recognition, for dignity and for everything else that we are entitled to, which comes naturally to us because of assigned gender at birth. But gender is complex. It is a lived experience and a performative act, a social construct and a reality. That reality needs to be acknowledged, and not just appropriated.
This issue of Outlook looks at the portrayals of trans people in popular culture, and mythology and their struggle for inclusion. I wrote Gauri바카라s story. After 11 years, I see a version of her story that raises important ethical questions. This is for the sake of those uncomfortable questions. For the sake of the view of the whole sky, and not bits and pieces of it. For the sake of stories, for the sake of representation, the right to adopt and marry, and a right to claim their stories.
(This appeared in the print as 'The Invisibility Cloak')
