My mother is an incredible woman. My father is spiritual. He is my spiritual side. He is the forgiving side. He is the 바카라let it go바카라 side. But when you compete, these attributes have a very fine balance with being competitive, not shutting down at any point. That needs aggression, not submission. My mother is the aggressive side. My mum had a huge role to play in my life and career because she just would not take no for an answer. She never let me be scared of failure. She would say, 바카라What바카라s your worst fear? Failure? Then go fail, but not without trying.바카라
Last year, she suffered a massive stroke to the left side of her brain. She was paralysed neck down. She could not speak a word. I remember telling her, you have got to fight. This can바카라t be you because my ma knows how to fight. She did. And she came back full blown. Her motor skills are back. She still has a speech defect but she is not letting it hold her back. The event is the first public appearance she made in a long time.
The year I competed in the Miss India contest, Aishwarya Rai was a hot favourite. Some 25-26 kids refused to enter the pageant because she was competing and everyone believed her to be a sure shot winner, including me, by the way. I was about to turn 18. I came back home and told my ma that I will go next year. She asked me why. I said, 바카라Ma, you know that Pepsi ad girl Aishwarya Rai is entering the contest and it바카라s a bad idea this year.바카라 My mother first sulked and did not speak to me the entire day. I couldn바카라t do with my mum not talking to me. So I asked her why she was so upset. Finally, she sat me down and said, 바카라You can바카라t be my daughter. You cannot be someone, who just gives up without trying. I don바카라t care, who is competing. If this child (Aishwarya) is the most beautiful thing you have ever seen, that is all the more reason you should participate. Lose to her if you have to. What is this 바카라andhon mein kaana raaja바카라 attitude that you will go when there is no competition? I told her, if it바카라s that bad, I will sign in. She told me not to do it for her but for myself, or else I will never know if I can be an upset to somebody.
One night before the Miss India event, my mother was flying in from Delhi to Bombay and then Bombay to Goa, where the competition was being held. When she reached Bombay, I called her up crying, and asked her not to come. I told her, I will feel very sad losing in front of you as 바카라that girl바카라 has won every preliminary competition, and she is going to win. I said, if you love me, you will not come. I was still a baby. I was 18 and was freaking out. She agreed to stay back in Bombay. Then I won the Miss India title. My mother was at the airport when I landed in Bombay. I went and touched her feet and said, 바카라I am so sorry, you missed it, ma.바카라 She said, 바카라Because you made me miss this, you will now win Miss Universe so I can watch.바카라 I remember that so distinctly and she watched me become the Miss Universe.
Born to be brave
A lot of people have spoken in the past about several beauty queens emerging from an armed forces background. I think it is far deeper than what they say it is. It바카라s about the discipline of patriotism. It comes very strongly from the time that we are born. With defence backgrounds, all of us come to honour this dream to win for our country; to see our flag being hoisted. It바카라s pretty much like an Olympian, who loves the idea of representing her country.
So, whenever we are put in a gruelling situation that expects strict regimentation바카라which these pageants have been internationally바카라we can deal with it. You go there for a month but most girls want to run back to their countries in the first 10 days. It is not just about parading in swimsuits. You have to be up by 4.30-5 every morning. You are going to be photographed the entire day, meeting the heads of states. Because of our upbringing, we know how to just dig our heels in. I have seen that about every single army, air force and navy kid I have met; it바카라s just in their blood. They just know how to do it.
A mother바카라s life
I want my daughters to have their own spirit. As generations grow, what is important for a mother to teach her children is very different in today바카라s times. I believe that my children need to make mistakes but take responsibility for them. I need them to learn that very early in life. I don바카라t take excuses and keep telling them that if you are in charge, and have taken a call, you take the responsibility. They have to think for themselves and make their own mistakes.
I grew up studying in Kendriya Vidyalayas wherever my dad was posted. I came to a private kind of set-up with Air Force Golden Jubilee School only after my Class 9th. And I failed my Class 10th English because my education till then was in Hindi medium. Then everyone made it a habit of speaking to me in English at home. Things started changing but I truly picked up the language only after winning the Miss Universe. They taught me British English and the American English, and the difference between the two.
However, my foundation in education was solid because of KV. I believe that India gives the best fundamental education. I would want my kids to get their basics here바카라put the calculator aside and do the math on their fingers. That바카라s fundamentally getting it right. If Renee wants to go for higher studies in Liberal Arts바카라this is the field she has picked바카라and English Literature or Music then she will go abroad.
Alisah, all of 9, wants to go to a boarding school, following Renee바카라s footsteps. She cannot miss out on the fun that 바카라didi바카라 had. I have told her she can go after finishing Class 8, and only if she makes the grade. Ever since I told her, she is getting top grades in all subjects.
The comeback
It바카라s a great time to be in Bollywood, especially if you are in love with the art of cinema. When people start to watch and enjoy a Stree, you know that people actually love the process of great cinema and different kinds of films. Not just cinema, there are so many different avenues of telling a story now. I watched the web series Sacred Games, and it is incredible.
As of now, there are two movies that I have green-lighted. In one, I play a tough UP cop, who is hilarious, and I am very excited about it. Final touches are being given to the script. And Mudassar Aziz is writing another film for me. It will take the word progressive to another level. I play the most incredible woman of my age, 42, but I promise I am going to make that age look amazing. I don바카라t want to play a young girl running around trees. And yes, it바카라s a great time to be back!
바카라As told to Bhavna Vij-Aurora
(The author is a former Miss Universe and actor)
